Birth date: Aug 8, 1923 Death date: Oct 21, 2020
Lillian Patoc Obituary LILLIAN DEBEBAR (TIQUI) PATOC, 97 of Hilo, Hawaii, passed away on October 21, 2020 in Hilo. She was born in Waipahu, Hawaii. She is survived by sons, Edward (Judy) Tiqui, Marcelino "Mase" (Minda) Tiqui; da Read Obituary
On Behalf of Ruth and her family here is a little message she sent me. To Lola, Lillian Thank you for Everything for your spiritual guidance & teaching! We will cherish all the memories we shared w/ you forever. Now you are forever praising & worshiping w/ the KING! We love you grandma! RIL! â¤ï¸ Lola LillianWe will always remember your favorite song! “Hallelujah I’m walking with the Kingâ€Love, ~ Serg, Ruthie & JR Gals Cabal Family~
To my Grandma Lillian,Grandma, even though I did not spend a lot of time with you, the time I was able to spend with you leaves me with many wonderful memories. I admired your never-ending faith in the Lord, your hard work ethic, your strong will and your love of family. I will always remember your lovely smile. I know that now you are with your Father in heaven and smiling that lovely smile upon Him. Rest in love Grandma Lillian
Hello Everyone:Wish I could’ve been there for my mother’s final farewell from the beautiful Island in which she was born and raised on. I remember many happy moments and sad ones too, but as many families that were raised around “OTA†camp we were not the exception.But as many of you know, Mom was an exceptionally strong woman, both physically and mentally. She would assign each of us children chores, and she would see to it that those chores would be done to her satisfaction.  And she was also a great negotiator; one classic example of that which I will never forget was….crabbing and picking clams in the water of Pearl Harbor. Keep in mind that this is Federal Property. In fact, there were big painted signs which said…fishing, crabbing and the harvesting of clams was prohibited.Well needless to say, we were caught along with several others by the Pearl Harbor game warden. Before the warden could give us a ticket, mom would challenge the warden with her brilliant debate of words. Her argument of words to the warden were…….â€Why are you trying to stop us when in fact we are just trying to feed our children! We are not harming the property, nor are we harming the food chain, we are only taking what we need to feed our kids and no more. We are not taking these clams, crabs or fish to sell, we do not sell them.â€Her last endearing words to the warden were, “I refuse to go on welfare and have the government support myself and my children. Now mister warden, you have a choice…to write us all a citation or we all go on welfare.â€Needless to say, the game warden let us all go, with the parting words of “don’t let anybody see those bags and don’t spread the word that I did not give you a citation.†All to mom’s smart negotiation skills.There are many more memories I can recall, but as you all already know, she was truly a caring person and a stern one as she had to be.Wish we did not have this pandemic situation we are in. Maybe some day, when this is all over, we can all get together once again to reminisce about our upbringing by our parents, grandparents and great grandparents.To Mom… Aloha ‘oe’ and I love you.
Hello everyone. We wish we could all be with you today on this special day to honor our mom, grandma, great grandma, great great grandma and friend. This is my letter to my second mom, Lillian.Dear Mom,I know that many of the family members call you mama, grandma, tutu lady, etc. But you will always be my second mom. You were the first person that I met when I got off the plane when I was 18 years old to meet Ed’s family. Ed was away at basic training in the army and you welcomed me with open arms. I was a shy “haole†and had never even been on a plane!You welcomed me from the very first day. After spending time with the family, I became aware of how difficult it was for the family growing up. I just knew that Ed was a very hardworking, compassionate and loving person. I am sure that he received many of these traits from you. I cannot imagine how hard that it was for you to raise six children during the difficult trials you endured.I have always admired the spiritual strength you had. Your faith kept you grounded. I remember when you visited us many years ago. I took you to the church that I was attending at the time. When we arrived, someone from the church welcomed us. I had to laugh, because the first thing you said to this person was, “this is my daughter in lawâ€. You felt the need to clarify this. I guess that we did not look like mother and daughter! It still brings a smile to my face when I remember this.Mom, I also remember when you took us to the airport after one of our visits. You dropped Ed and I off and I said “I love you momâ€. I don’t think that you responded, but I knew in my heart you felt the same way. I think that expressing your emotions was kind of difficult for you at times, but I also knew how important family was to you.I will miss you so much as my second mom. What is a mother anyway? Someone who looks out for their children above their own wishes and desires, tries to show them the way in life and also sacrifices some of their own happiness to accomplish these things.Aloha Mom and we will see you soon when the Lord says the time is right. We all have comfort in knowing that you are rejoicing in heaven right now.Love,JudyProverbs 3:5-6Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.
A Time for EverythingEcclesiastes 3:1-8, 113 1 There is a time for everything, and a   season for every activity under the heavens:2 a time to be born and a time to die,  a time to plant and a time to uproot,3 a time to kill and a time to heal,  a time to tear down and a time to build,4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,  a time to mourn and a time to dance,5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,  a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,6 a time to search and a time to give up,  a time to keep and a time to throw away,7 a time to tear and a time to mend,  a time to be silent and a time to speak,8 a time to love and a time to hate,  a time for war and a time for peace.11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.
Rest in love Grandma. We will miss you dearly. The boys miss so much already. Micah said he will always remember your smile and what you would say every time you saw him "It's not yo' Kah, It's My Kah" and "Isaiah the prophet". Love you Grandma until we meet again.Â
